Teaching Kids to Let Go: Why Pre-Christmas Decluttering Matters

Why Now? The Holiday Reset

Decluttering before the holidays gives kids space—both physically and mentally—for what’s coming next. It helps reduce overwhelm, teaches intentional decision-making, and opens up conversations about how owning less can actually feel like more. The message becomes clear: it's not just about acquiring new things, but also about learning to release what no longer serves us.

Step-by-Step: How to Declutter With Kids

Set the Stage with Empathy
Start by framing the process in a positive, supportive way. This isn’t about “getting rid” of their stuff—it’s about creating space for the things they truly enjoy. You might say:
“Christmas is coming soon, and you might get some exciting new things! Let’s make space together so your room feels calm and happy.”

Keep it Manageable
Declutter in short, focused sessions. If your child is losing focus after a couple of redirections, it’s probably time to take a break and return to it later. Choose one category at a time: books, stuffed animals, puzzles, action figures, or clothes. If your items aren’t already grouped by type, that might be your first step—it makes the process easier and more intuitive for kids (as well as adults!)

Try Making it a Game
Kids are more engaged when decluttering feels like play. Try fun prompts such as:

• “Let’s find 10 things we don’t use anymore.”
• “Can you find three toys that a younger child might love?”
• “If we had to pack your room for a space mission, what would you take?”

Involve Them in the Process
Let your child make the final decision on what stays or goes. This builds autonomy, confidence, and trust. If they’re unsure, set aside a “Maybe Box” to revisit later. And don’t forget to toss broken toys that can’t be fixed—those just take up space without adding value.

Talk About Giving
Approach donating items as an act of kindness, not just an act of letting go. Help your child understand where their donations are going and who might benefit. You might say:
“This puzzle helped you learn so much. Now it can help another little boy or girl too.”

If possible, visit a local donation center together so they can see the full circle of giving in action.

Celebrate the Results
Once the space is cleared, take a moment to appreciate it together. Acknowledge their effort, and reinforce how good it feels to have a more peaceful space. You can even take a photo to mark their accomplishment—and remind them of how it felt to make space intentionally.

Bonus Tip: Lead by Example
Children model what they see. If you’re also letting go of clothes, books, or old holiday decorations, talk through your own choices aloud:
“This sweater was cozy, but I haven’t worn it in two years. Someone else might really enjoy it.”

When they see you participating, it becomes a shared family value—not just a chore for them.

The Real Gift

At its heart, this process isn’t just about tidying up. It’s about nurturing emotional growth. Kids learn that it’s okay to outgrow things, that sharing feels good, and that space and simplicity are valuable. They also begin to understand that the holidays aren’t only about getting, but also about giving—and making room for what really matters.

So before the tree goes up and the presents roll in, take a little time to declutter together. You’ll breathe a bit easier, your home will feel a little lighter, and you’ll be creating space—not just for new things, but for new memories.

Wishing you a joyful and clutter-free holiday season,
–Jennifer Ross and The Spruce Goose Organizers